I recently saw a film about a woman in her 60’s who, when asked what her life had been like before the recent death of her husband replied, “I don’t know. I really wasn’t there for most of it.”

As is the case with far too many people, she had become so entangled with her job and with caring for her husband, home, and children that the days became a period of time to simply “get through.” She abdicated her life to everyone and everything else, and in the process she lost her own sense of self.

It’s been observed that “happiness is a journey - not a destination.” But how many of us tend to view the joys of living on a “when” basis? “I’ll take those painting classes when the children are grown.” “My spouse and I will have the chance to enjoy ourselves when we go on vacation next year.” “We’ll be able to entertain more properly when we get a larger house.” Or the ever-popular “I’ll be happier when…. (fill in the blank).”

It’s easy to lose the simple appreciation of being alive when our days are filled with responsibilities and deadlines. And far too easy to place the blame on our jobs or our families instead of where it really belongs - which, as Chief Tecumseh observed, is with ourselves.

When asked once in an interview where he lived, a friend replied, “Wherever I am.” Each day is a gift, not simply a series of hours to endure while waiting for something else. To appreciate life and to be happy and thankful for the joy of living is a personal choice.

This week, this day, this moment, is your life. Be there for it . . .

Thanks to Judine McGinley